Healing Through Life's Profound Moments

Psychologists allege that we will only experience 13 minutes of true intimacy in our entire lives. I wasn't willing to settle for 13 minutes. Are you?

I have been there. To be honest, I am still there. My life partner has cancer. Over the past five years I have discovered that it is our cancer, not just his. This cancer, this thing that has turned our world inside out and that has the power to dissolve every trace life, teaches me something new every day. Its message has remained consistent and clear as it leads me deeper and deeper into the power of intimacy. It says, "I know it hurts, but remain present and available to life regardless of what it dishes out."

Yes, life hurts at times. It's scary and painful. We have been taught to avoid pain, so in essence, we have been taught to avoid life. The pains of life are why we sidestep our inner guidance, why we avoid intimacy, why we are wary of change. If we enter into the great unknown, something drastic will happen. So, we stay put until life spits us out, kicking and screaming, into the great unknown.

By not engaging life fully we minimize the risk of failure and the certainty of pain and sorrow. As the inner struggle atests, closed to life's bumps and bruises something else happens. We maximize our heart's sorrow as we miss the profound moments of intimacy that make life worth living.

It is possible to expand our thirteen minutes of intimacy into days, months and years ... into a lifetime of profound moments, regardless of the length of that lifetime. Transitions are leaping off points. Are you willing to risk being fully intimate with your life?